His and Hers: Little Victories on a Different Scale

We're just on a different scale when it comes to counting little victories.

We’re just on a different scale when it comes to counting little victories.

HER: Oh look, 31 people viewed my blog today. Isn’t that amazing?

HIM: Great. That’s good, right? By the way, the art gallery called. They said the payment is in. This painting is now sold (stepping back from it, giving it a once over one more time).  I have to take in tomorrow.

HER: Wow! That’s great! Congratulations! (looking at a vertical graph bar, hoping it would miraculously grow before her eyes). Sigh.

He’s talented, this is true. He’s an artist. He’s an architect, and he recently taught himself how to play the second movement of  Layla on the piano. Some of his paintings have even been rented for filming Hawaii Five-0 this season. It’s times like these that I’m so proud of him. And times like these (I hate to confess), I feel like an underachiever.

He said to me once, “I only do the things I’m good at.” 

Hmm. Simple. To the point. Makes sense, right? Maybe it’s a guy thing. The least amount of effort for the maximum amount of effect? Whereas women tend to delve into the process of things: conversations, analyzing movies, analyzing our conversations about movies, but the best is when we analyze our conversations about conversations we had. And when we bring our summaries of our conversations home to include our guys, your top three best (and safest) responses should probably include:

  1. Really? She said that?
  2. Oh, how does that make you feel?
  3. Uh-huh. I would feel the same way, too.

[Try it. If it works, post me a comment, okay? You’ll be amazed at how much faster the her mood will improve when we think you’re listening to us.]

So I don’t only do the things that I’m good at. Does that mean I intentionally open myself up to the bumps and valleys of little victories? Maybe it’s not a guy-girl thing. In any case, tomorrow, there’s going to be room to hang our Tagami painting on the wall again. Tomorrow, I will share the great news with our friends and family about another one of Craig’s painting sold. Tomorrow, I’m sure my stats will probably look the same.  But  really, ALL of those are OUR small victories. And I am happy about that.


4 responses to “His and Hers: Little Victories on a Different Scale

  1. I love, love, love this post. Especially this sentence, “But really, ALL of those are OUR small victories. And I am happy about that.”
    Sometimes I need to remind myself of that. Mr. Hot Stuff’s bonus and success at work and as a great dad, are equally significant to the A that my daughter, Miss Sassy, has in math because I tutored her when “Dad-the-math-man” was on business in China, and my own efforts to maintain a blog in the face of sickness, and school finals, and feeding an unknown quantity of people dinner every night. Nope, unlike Mr. Hot Stuff, I’m pretty sure I’m well below genius in most every area, BUT I’m a “step-up-to-bat-and-git-‘er-done” kind of woman and that’s not always easy to come by. Together, we make a great family team. 🙂


  2. I tell ya what…..life in this house would be rather boring if we only did the things we were great at! Don’t let your success be measured by someone else’s interpretation of what great is! 🙂


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