We’re just on a different scale when it comes to counting little victories.
HER: Oh look, 31 people viewed my blog today. Isn’t that amazing?
HIM: Great. That’s good, right? By the way, the art gallery called. They said the payment is in. This painting is now sold (stepping back from it, giving it a once over one more time). I have to take in tomorrow.
HER: Wow! That’s great! Congratulations! (looking at a vertical graph bar, hoping it would miraculously grow before her eyes). Sigh.
He’s talented, this is true. He’s an artist. He’s an architect, and he recently taught himself how to play the second movement of Layla on the piano. Some of his paintings have even been rented for filming Hawaii Five-0 this season. It’s times like these that I’m so proud of him. And times like these (I hate to confess), I feel like an underachiever.
He said to me once, “I only do the things I’m good at.”
Hmm. Simple. To the point. Makes sense, right? Maybe it’s a guy thing. The least amount of effort for the maximum amount of effect? Whereas women tend to delve into the process of things: conversations, analyzing movies, analyzing our conversations about movies, but the best is when we analyze our conversations about conversations we had. And when we bring our summaries of our conversations home to include our guys, your top three best (and safest) responses should probably include:
- Really? She said that?
- Oh, how does that make you feel?
- Uh-huh. I would feel the same way, too.
[Try it. If it works, post me a comment, okay? You’ll be amazed at how much faster the her mood will improve when we think you’re listening to us.]
So I don’t only do the things that I’m good at. Does that mean I intentionally open myself up to the bumps and valleys of little victories? Maybe it’s not a guy-girl thing. In any case, tomorrow, there’s going to be room to hang our Tagami painting on the wall again. Tomorrow, I will share the great news with our friends and family about another one of Craig’s painting sold. Tomorrow, I’m sure my stats will probably look the same. But really, ALL of those are OUR small victories. And I am happy about that.